Learning to Forgive

Forgivness heals the heart

I think we all were at a stage in our life’s that we had to forgive something that was done to you or you had to forgive someone in your life.

Knowing from personal experience forgiving a wrong is not easy and it takes a lot from a person to just release and to let go. It takes an action, a decision that you personally have to make yourself to forgive and it’s an action that you will have to make over and over and with time it will get easier, to just let go and not to hold on to what has happened to you.

Even when it’s hardest to forgive, we need to; it’s healing for our hearts when you make that decision to start to forgive people. By forgiving the person, doesn’t mean that what they did to you was okay, it means that you decided to release that person to God and let God work on them. If you don’t want to forgive, you let that person have control, by forgiving and giving it to God you free yourself from anger, hatred, bitterness, resentment and revenge.

By not forgiving someone, that un-forgiveness grows and grows and weighs you down, making you feel tired and sick.

It’s not always easy, but only the first step is the hardest to do and every time you feel the anger coming up, forgive in Jesus name and release that person to God.

Forgiveness also doesn’t mean that you have to take the person back into your life, if it’s a friendship that is damaging towards you or any other relationship that is abusive it’s not good, God wants the best for us and abuse of any kind or any action that is not of God, like physical abuse, mental abuse, sexual abuse or manipulation or any other sorts of abuse is not of God and He does not approve of abuse, of any kind. So to forgive someone doesn’t always mean that you have to take them back. If the person shows you over and over after given many chances that they aren’t willing to change or work on their actions or behaviour it’s not a good place to be, God is for reconciliation, but if there is no way of reconciliation after many, many tries, I believe in my heart that God is good with you not taking that person back into your life. You can still pray for them for healing and for God to help them, because that is what God wants you to do, and when you start to pray for the person you know that God is healing you from the pain, I know it may not always be easy, but remember with God anything and everything is possible.

We serve an awesome God, He is forgiving to us and He has mercy on us and by His grace are we saved, but also to receive His forgiveness we should also forgive.

Give it to God and let Him help you, heal you and guide you, it’s going to be hard at first, but with time it will get easier. The more you learn to release and forgive the less hold the devil has. Remember anger, hatred, un-forgiveness, bitterness, self-pity, manipulation, anger etc. is the devil’s playground and he loves it when we do it to others and even ourselves.

May the grace and mercy of God be with you all through this weekend.


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